So far, I've learned that there's a difference between conflict and crisis, and that it's best to unravel the external conflict before you unravel the internal conflict. I still have a lot to learn, and a lot of articles to sort through. The thing is, every writing book, sight, article, etc. advises to make your conflict BIG, but by definition, what is big?
If your character is a spy, a politician, or lawyer, I can see how that would be easier to define. But what if your character is an average Joe seeking love and home? What if the greatest loss for their particular situation isn't life or death, a ruined political career, or seeing an innocent man to go jail? What if being alone is their greatest fear? What if they fear they will never meet Mr. Right? That kind of conflict isn't going to have the same big type of conflict as a thriller, and this is exactly what I'm trying to sort out.
I'm currently reading Debra Dixon's GMC, and trying to sort out all my questions I have about the subject. I mean, I recognize a conflict when I see it, but how do you build it to fit your story? That is my current quest. To take the conflict out of building a conflict. I sense this isn't going to be easy, so I guess it's a good thing I'm determined.